Financial support in girlfriend.

[Vombatus]

My girlfriend has just spoken to Kees girlfriend on the phone, she does exist and she does appear very genuine so maybe we can draw a close to this topic. I am sure Kees will agree.

Why was Kees looking for an English teacher when you, as his his mate, will be here in October with your TEFL certificate starting an English school ?

Do you not speak very often ?

[Tommo]

I think I've said enough now.
I quite simply tried to make someone, who I have never met. Feel a little more secure about a personal choice that they made.

[Admin]

I think I've said enough now.
I quite simply tried to make someone, who I have never met. Feel a little more secure about a personal choice that they made.

Agree.

We had enough.

Good luck to the OP.

[smithy99]

I think I've said enough now.
I quite simply tried to make someone, who I have never met. Feel a little more secure about a personal choice that they made.

Owned 

[Admin]

I think I've said enough now.
I quite simply tried to make someone, who I have never met. Feel a little more secure about a personal choice that they made.

Owned 

The OP has requested me to open the topic and he will reply soon so be patient and don't put the negative posts until you hear him.

[Vombatus]

I think I've said enough now.
I quite simply tried to make someone, who I have never met. Feel a little more secure about a personal choice that they made.

Owned 

The OP has requested me to open the topic and he will reply soon so be patient and don't put the negative posts until you hear him.

Quite right - we are here to help him - if he wants help.

[SEABY]

 yes I think we all want to help but we need the truth not the half truth

[smithy99]

  

[Admin]

 

Because differences of time zones the OP said he will reply tonight around 1:00-2:00am.
Hold your breath and sit tight until then!

[smithy99]

Bated Breath

[KeesM]

OK, I am early today, had a allday meeting instead of work. So here's my reply:

Yes, I was the 1 to ask a question. Too bad nearly nobody read the question right.
I was NOT the 1 to start this discussion. The question was simple: is 7000 baht/month a normal fee for cost and living. And then a bunch ppl overhere made a total different discussion about that, asking me questions which had nothing to do with my question. Also assuming lots of things with no ground. Having opinions without knowing anything but their own assumptions.
You didnt see me for a few days, because some ppl already got answers from me by email, and I am normally not responding to answers I regard as attacks or unfriendly.
But Ok ,I am used to this kind of bullshit, but I am happy that also some normal, nice people try to give me good advice and or help. By now you know already that thanks to Tommo I found someone to go teach my girlfriend English. So you could already assume that the shop does exist, because that teacher is going there.
I know I have the odds against me. I know all the stories. And yet I gave a girl money. I know the risk, but then: compared to a mentioned house, it's not that much money. I am not that foolish as a lot of people here assume. I can count. And for 450.000 baht, I took the risk that  - how small YOU may think the chance is - I might be lucky to find an honest girl.
I know you all have seen turn it out bad many times. And I do understand completely that your trust in a happy ending is very low.... But I might be the lucky one.
 
Everybody here who was sincere in giving me answers to help me: thank you very much.
Sorry I am a little late. In the beginning I got each time a message that there was a reply. Didnt get it the last few days, so I supposed there were no more answers, so I missed a big part of the let's call it 'discussion'.
Also, I am not entering yes-no discussions. Until further prooven to be incorrect, I fully trust my girlfriend.

O, and Seaby: yes, I could have paid money for costs of living for 4 years. Then after 4 years the money is also gone, nothing left; and now at least there still is a shop. Still looks better to me.

TBWG: yes, I am trying to learn some Thai. Very difficult by computer because they do not pronounce the words slow. And when I look up words in a dictionary, I pronounce them 7 times out of 10 not good so she doesn't understand me.

regards,
Kees

[Vombatus]

Hi Kees - good to have you back.

So where EXACTLY is the shop so we can check it out for you.

How much are you paying for the monthly allowance - that we all pay. This is separate from the 7,000 Baht to be with parents,.....

[KeesM]

Hello Coffee,
1. no need to check it out.

2. I don't pay monthly allowance. She wanted a shop so she could make an own living, and I gave her one. But because she actually lived in Phimai, she now has to stay with family to be able to run her shop. Ofcourse they need money for food and so. I only wanted to know a fair price. She is paying that herself. (as long as possible). I suppose soon I will have to jump in, because the shop will need time to attract enough customers. As soon as the shops runs well enough, she doesn't need my money anymore.

[Puba]

Hi OP, In Thai culture they say tam dee dai dee, tam shua dai shua, I think you made your decision already and need no more advice. good luck.

[Puba]

KeesM, I think B7000 are worthless now days esp if she have family, I believe it is fair pay for your loved one.