THE MONEY ONE HAS TO PAY FOR GETTING MARIED

[rufusredtail]

Hi all, my question is to all out there, what did you have to pay when getting married to a Thai lady, i know its a sore point with westerners, and may be none of my business, but i am curious about money up front, as in a sort of guarantee,it just goes against the grain, is it the less you own , the less you pay , lets says for instance that 1 owns 3 houses, near retiring age , money in the bank , super and all the rest , is one accessed at what one has , then a figure arrived at , lets say for instance , i was ask for 2 million thb , is this excessive, i know in some Case the mother gives all back , butttttttttttttttttttt what happens if it is kept , my grip is that it is like paying to get married , i would like figures of what you paid , if thats ok with you 

[Admin]

You are talking about 'Sin Sod', the subject has been discussed so many times in the past.....

To make it short.
Its a dowry.
Usually not returned to the groom as it is gift money for the bride's parents.It's a Thai tradition.

Farang/Thai weddings 'Sin Sod' can be anything between 30,000-1,000,000 Baht.
*Talking about 'Sin Sod' amount only, not other things the wife/family are asking like a new house/car,etc because its very personal and depend on the person willing to pay or from the other side, how poor the family is and how much there are in need for financially support.

Instead of asking 'IF' tell us how much were you asked to pay and we can advice (from our point of view and personal experience of course) if its fair or not?

Almost always the answer will be: It's worth it if you are willing to pay for it.

[Prakhonchai Nick]

You are offering a Thai girl the chance of a lifetime. If it's not you or some other foreigner, then most likely it will be a local village lad with little or no work, an , possibly a wife beater, who more than likely will desert her after a year or so. You can most likely provide financial security for her both during your lifetime and after you have gone. That in itself is worth more than any dowry, and the parents should be made to see the benefits to their daughter.

Dowries are paid by fools in my book!

[rufusredtail]

The price is 2 million thb

[manupete]

The price is 2 million thb

Is she a movie star 

[Khun Tony]

I didn't plan to get married on my extended stay in buriram over 10 years ago, but I did and I paid 100,000 baht of which half was given back and the other half was used by her sister to assist with her business.   I also bought some gold for the wife to wear at the wedding as well.  As it turns out today, her sister is doing very well, she has a very large wholesale / retail operation in the markets.

At the time when I paid the money it was a lot to me because it was part of my holiday money to stay in Thailand for 3 months, but I got by.   2 million sounds a lot, but it really does depend on what you have, If you have 3 houses and super etc, then 2 million is not a lot.  If you have no house, a small amount of super then I would be looking at reducing the amount!!   It does really depend on your situation.

[Khun Tony]

By the way not everyone is out for money, one of the nieces was being courted by a young Perth bloke, he offered her everything and said he would give her anything, she asked if he could give her the moon.   Needless to say it did not go anywhere.   She finished her Uni degree and now works at the Thepnakorn hotel.

[dundeemk6]

If they want to stick to that amount : my advice ... RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK !!!!!!!
The best advice I can give to "new kids in town" is "x and forget" but most of the time the brain stays at the level of the dick ...
please do yourself a favor ... keep it "low profile" on what you have .. otherwhise you are going to be a hell of a cashcow for her and her family and I have an inckling of a feeling that this already happened ...
If you really want to "try" it out just live with them for a while ( one year at least ) and pay on a daily basis ... you still can be generous on a daillt basis but donnot fork out 2.000.000 like that ... you WILL loose face = it will come over that you are an easy picking !!!

[Admin]

In other words. Paying more money is not always mean earn face.

Read all comments because the dowry amount is just not sound correct.

It's your call now. TAKE YOUR TIME TO MAKE A DECISION.

[Prakhonchai Nick]

2 million baht? They're taking the PISS!

[Vombatus]

troll

[manupete]

troll

Sin Sod has been done to death over the years,anybody who asks about it only has to google and read to see what westerners think.You could be right Ray 

[Admin]

troll

Sin Sod has been done to death over the years,anybody who asks about it only has to google and read to see what westerners think.You could be right Ray 

See his posts: I really don't think he is troll just because he is !
http://www.buriramexpats.com/forum/index.php?action=profile;area=showposts;u=4786

[Vombatus]

Anyone considering paying 2m sin sot is either a troll or a half-wit.

[nookiebear]

Anyone considering paying 2m sin sot is either a troll or a half-wit.

Plenty of both around too!!