Hi, I'm new on the forum

[Adam]

Hey everyone,

Just joined today, I've lived in Lalomweng for 10 years (on the border of Buriram and Surin provinces), since I married my wife.

I'm 43 from the UK and work as a Safety Instructor on Cruise Ships (Princess Cruises), teaching fire fighting, lifeboat driving and all aspects of safety management on ships.

Although I have lived in the area for 10 years, dont socialise too much (in the country for 4 months a year, 8 months on ships). I dont drink too much these days and my wife is finally pregnant. But the problem always was that my wife doesnt seem to get on with other thais married to farangs, I dont know why......is this normal?

All the best Adam

[JanAndersLarsson]

Sorry to say but it is normal. They are afraid of competition.  Try to make contact with other farangs when you are in the town. Go to have something to eat at midday at some of the farang restaurants in Buriram or Surin towns.

[Paddyram]

I agree wth the jealousy answer as some Farang's wives love to flaunt their new found riches (from 'rich' Farang) to all the other wives they meet. The  "I have more than you"-type of thing, or "Whats wrong, why no baby ?" .  Some can be bitchy like that, but not all.  I know it still pisses my wife off when we go back to Thailand (We live in Ireland now). 

But there is another possible reason.
Sorry to be a pessimist, ... but there is also the possibility that one (or more) of those Thai ladies may not be telling their Farang husband the whole truth and don't want to be around more honest wives that might let the cat of the bag ... ... no offence meant, but it does happen.  I am constaintly shocked by the stories I hear some 'wives' tell my missus when we are over there on hols... I really think that all farang husbands should learn some thai even if its just enough to listen out for key words, Pua Noi, etc, etc.

[Adam]

I know what you mean guys, but my missus is a good un and she really hated all of the showing off of the "Hi So wives". Most of whom were only girlfriends and were soon replaced haha!

She tells me the stories of other farang wives as well, they seem to be obsessed with playing cards and giving money to their Thai boyfriends.

But I stay out of it all, just keep myself to myself, though when I finally retire (20 years or more to go yet) it would be nice to have some farang friends.

As I learnt from the Filipino guys on the ships I work on, I keep several dogs, when I come home, if they dont bark at everyone who comes to the gate, it means somebody has been waggle daggling while I'm away. Pleased to say all my dogs are still mean....they even bark at me!!!!!!!!

[buriramboy]

competition between the ladies. ho yes.

[Paddyram]

Adam, I'm glad to see you are clued in.  I didn't mean to make any insinuations, but as you know there are some terrible gold-diggers out there with some very naive (or constaintly drunk) husbands.  Glad to see you are not one of them. 
If you are near Buriram and you are looking for a nice place to socialise I would recommend Paddys Irish Bar.  The international bar is good too, but i think it is up for sale.  But at any of the farang bars you will get a mix of both good happy couples and disasters waiting to happen.  I do have a laugh with the lads in Paddys though and most of the guys and galls in there are genuine.  Best of luck with the baby on the way, hope everythings goes smoothly .. cheers  .

[Adam]

Hey Paddyram, never thought you were having a pop. Its good to warn people, I never understand the guys who my wife tells me about the wives having thai boyfriends.

But I think in a lot of cases, these are the same guys who have a wife out in Isaan, but still go to Pattaya for the odd holiday alone.

I've only been to Pattaya twice, both times took the family. But we will never go back, too seedy for me and found the Beach dirty (though I'm told it has been cleaned up).

Anyone know of a good beach spot near Isaan, with cheap accommodation, nice beach and a few restaurants (don't need farang food!)? ......

[den Buut]

The beach is always a half a day drive, but I think Rayong is oke, or a bit further Koh Chang is realy great and relaxed and they have hotels for all kinds of prices. Good luck.

[lahansai]

The beach is always a half a day drive, but I think Rayong is OK, or a bit further Koh Chang is really great and relaxed and they have hotels for all kinds of prices. Good luck.

pattaya or koh chang.
but you asked for a beach close to Buriram and that is something that does not exist here.
minimum 6 hours driving from any beach I'm afraid.

[Paddyram]

Hey Paddyram, never thought you were having a pop. Its good to warn people, I never understand the guys who my wife tells me about the wives having thai boyfriends.

But I think in a lot of cases, these are the same guys who have a wife out in Isaan, but still go to Pattaya for the odd holiday alone.

I've only been to Pattaya twice, both times took the family. But we will never go back, too seedy for me and found the Beach dirty (though I'm told it has been cleaned up).

Anyone know of a good beach spot near Isaan, with cheap accommodation, nice beach and a few restaurants (don't need farang food!)? ......

Ya I think you're right about the guys heading to walking street for a break from the wife, ... you get what you give !  I'll admit I met the wife in Pattaya but she was only too glad toi see the back of it, if I ever told her I was heading there for a break .. I think she would break something of mine first !

[EastFife4Forfar5]

I find that visits to Pattaya help you to maintain a sense of perspective.

[den Buut]

I find that visits to Pattaya help you to maintain a sense of perspective.

Please explane?

[Adam]

The way I see it, just because they are Thai, and may have been on the game when you met them, if you marry them, they are your wife and deserve the same respect. The past is the past.

If you want to have away days in Pattaya.......don't get married!!!

Just my view

[EastFife4Forfar5]

I find that visits to Pattaya help you to maintain a sense of perspective.

Please explane?

If an explanation is required then I doubt that the point will be grasped.

Pattaya is not Thailand - at least not the REAL Thailand.

When I lived in a rural part of the UK it was nice, occasionally, to visit the seaside and amusements. It made you realise both what you had and what you were missing.

There is a view that Pattaya is like Disneyland.

Most people would not like to live all the time in Disneyland but are happy to visit the attractions occasionally.

[EastFife4Forfar5]

The way I see it, just because they are Thai, and may have been on the game when you met them, if you marry them, they are your wife and deserve the same respect. The past is the past.

If you want to have away days in Pattaya.......don't get married!!!

Just my view

Adam - was your wife 'on the game' when you met ?