THE MONEY ONE HAS TO PAY FOR GETTING MARIED

[JasonB]

Great Gotlost,you get the girls,and I'll get the dumbest farangs I can find,you and I get 10% and make a fortune Mate

[rufusredtail]

WHY IS IT SO

That in a western wedding the brides mother and father put the money up for there daughter to get married , I know sometimes the other side helps out , bec its  expensive , with the reception , meals , cars , etc .

Why in Thailand is it that you pay, for the privilege to marry does anyone know , how was it introduced HISTORY wise that is , be interested to know .

[erik69]

WHY IS IT SO

That in a western wedding the brides mother and father put the money up for there daughter to get married , I know sometimes the other side helps out , bec its  expensive , with the reception , meals , cars , etc .

Why in Thailand is it that you pay, for the privilege to marry does anyone know , how was it introduced HISTORY wise that is , be interested to know .

Maybe it best to talk to your partner about this one.

My take on it is,girls get the land after their parents death and boy have they dowry paid for them by their parents.
In my wifes family the grandmother had 4 daughter ,so when she died the 20 rai was split up between the 4 daughters plus the 2 Rai plot in the Village was also split up 4 ways between the daughters.The sons ( wife's uncle's ) all had their dowry's paid by their mother and ended up with land and houses that where then pasted down by the wifes parents.
I hope that make scene  

[erik69]

BTW rufusredtail  , it's not just Thailand

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dowry

[dundeemk6]

Basic rule : do not play the game ... do not get into the game ... just say you live on a montly stipend ... no reserves and they will accept it ... just keep the money slowly flowing on a daily basis and the problem will never arise and if it does : run away as quickly as possible ...

[rufusredtail]

UPDATE

I thought it about time for an update , still happily married , my wife does not like the cold of winter in Australia , understandable , now works in the hairdressing shop, travels there and back by tram, earning considerable more than in Thailand , does not have an Australian license as yet, deal is if  you obtain a license, will purchase you a car , so has been beavering away reading the road rule book , loves gardening , and I have learnt a lot about plants , have built a huge garden bed and a hot house, complains that Thai basil and chillies not survive through the winter .

I am amazed how my wife has adapted to Australian way of life, after living most of her years in Thailand , we found a Thai temple close by and have made friends there, many Australians with Thai wives attend , most come on, or the closet day to full moon. I eat a lot more rice these days , and pork , does not like beef much or shark , which I crave for sometimes , I enjoy a glass of red most nights, tried to make me give it up , no chance , some renovations are on the schedule , have finished an outside veranda much to her delight , bathroom is next , followed by the bedroom, that's about it , take care all , enjoy the posts that are put up .     

[JasonB]

Good on you Rufus! seems things are working well for you.Sometimes I think that a lot of Thai women,especially from poor backgrounds,can adapt far more easily  in a new country then we adapt in Thailand,always suprises with Thai Ladies.I assume because of the trams,your in Victoria/Melbourne/Dandenong etc,certainly gets cold sometimes,good luck,keep the reports coming.

[rufusredtail]

UPDATE

I thought it was time for an update , the renovation of the bathroom is now finished all new floor and walls and shower screen, new vanity cabinet and wall cabinet, the reason for the upgrade was that I bought out three of my wife sisters , for a month they had never been on holiday in there life , never been on an aeroplane , the husbands were not happy , they thought it was only for a week, at the last minute they were told it was for 28 days, all had great time visiting various places ,went to many op shops (which are not in Thailand ), did not like the cold weather wood fire was lit on a few times , visited the penguins coming up the beach, went Melbourne for the day , all in all had a wonderful time , house is very quiet now .   

[rufusredtail]

UPDATE

I thought it was time so much water under the bridge as they say , have now renovated a whole bedroom to a hairdressing room , polished floorboards ,big mirrors, cabinets, wall vinyl, painted all , bought hairdressing chair , installed sinks etc , my wife now works from home,still happily married everyday makes me laugh, I am thinking of retiring next year , only work 4 days now , may be cut that down to 3 days , see how we go , i made a deal if you get your license , buy you a new car , well i lost that bet , now has a mazda 3 , gets out and about now in between haircuts , so all in all still goig well , i did forget our anniversary, which didn't go down to well , off to Thailand next week to see her mum and many others . Take care all . Rufusredtail derived from a canary i had great singer and roller.

[DeputyDavid]

Sounds like some great projects. Keep happy!!

[rufusredtail]

UPDATE

Hello to all that read this post.

Have just come back from Buriram, spent 5 days in BKK getting teeth  implants , dam site cheaper than Australia (where they are just ripping you off ) had a quote to go into hospital and have the first stage done just to put 4 inserts in no teeth  $9680 dollars , and the equilivant to have the teeth all up around $19500,  price in bkk 120,000 thb and about the same for the teeth saving me a whack , for the wife wants to build a house in buriram , costing around  2 million thb all up, starting sometime towards the end of next year , be interested to know if anyone on expats has had any dealings with BANDEE ARCHITECT BURIRAM BRANCH,   

Take care RUFUSREDTAIL (Name of a dead Canary was a terrific whistler)

[rufusredtail]

UPDATE

Well its cold here and raining , had a hot summer, and i hear its very hot in Thailand , coming over in June , July for three weeks to visit family and to get my new teeth in BKK, i have retired somewhat been working two days a week for the last six months , will be 67 this January , have plenty of projects to do , my wife is at school three days a week doing certificate 3 for hairdressing , actually won two awards at the Victorian hairdressing championships in Melbourne, a 1st place and a 3rd , very happy , i have now built an aluminium hot house 8.5 lm long by 2.45 lm wide , my wife has now filled it completely with various plants seedlings that will not survive the winter here, marriage is still going strong, and i, or should i say we are enjoying LIFE . Take care talk soon   

[rufusredtail]

UPDATE

Well i was due to go to Thailand on the 7 may  2020 , but my flight got cancelled , due to covid 19 , issued a refund for a later booking , i am now fully retired , and have been home now for six weeks Australia has had a lock down in place , only 97 deaths for the whole country , our government jumped on it quickly , told to stay home , can only go out for food , exercise , work , which limits you , many people are waiting for restrictions to be eased which will come to Victoria this Monday . My wife has now fully qualified as a cert 3 in hair dressing , works part time at a shop, and at home as well. 

Still happily married , enjoying life together , been a great experience , my only complaint would be sometimes there is a lack of communication , what you think has been said to you , is wrong , not explained properly , have you experienced this , has happened many times , may be its a western thing , we like things to be up front .

Have now taken up bee keeping have 7 hives , all from wild bees caught , interesting hobby , i built a hive 40 years ago in woodwork at school , now has bees in it , i build all my own hives bodies, bottom boards , covers , just buy the frames , extracted 53 kilos this year , veryyyyy sweet , gave a lot to friends , sold 20 kilos in jars , i can be an expensive hobby by the time you buy everything you need.

That's about it for now , take care , dont take risks with the virus , one good thing it doesent last long in humid weather if some coughs or sneezes. take care . Rufusredtail

[gotlost]

UPDATE

Well i was due to go to Thailand on the 7 may  2020 , but my flight got cancelled , due to covid 19 , issued a refund for a later booking , i am now fully retired , and have been home now for six weeks Australia has had a lock down in place , only 97 deaths for the whole country , our government jumped on it quickly , told to stay home , can only go out for food , exercise , work , which limits you , many people are waiting for restrictions to be eased which will come to Victoria this Monday . My wife has now fully qualified as a cert 3 in hair dressing , works part time at a shop, and at home as well. 

Still happily married , enjoying life together , been a great experience , my only complaint would be sometimes there is a lack of communication , what you think has been said to you , is wrong , not explained properly , have you experienced this , has happened many times , may be its a western thing , we like things to be up front .

Have now taken up bee keeping have 7 hives , all from wild bees caught , interesting hobby , i built a hive 40 years ago in woodwork at school , now has bees in it , i build all my own hives bodies, bottom boards , covers , just buy the frames , extracted 53 kilos this year , veryyyyy sweet , gave a lot to friends , sold 20 kilos in jars , i can be an expensive hobby by the time you buy everything you need.

That's about it for now , take care , dont take risks with the virus , one good thing it doesent last long in humid weather if some coughs or sneezes. take care . Rufusredtail

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[rufusredtail]

UPDATE
Long time no see , thought it was time to update , now have built a 400m2 house in Thailand , what an experience that was , so many things in the building trade , which i was part of in Australia , that are done different , but i must say i was very surprised at the speed it was done , the whole slab was poured in one hit they worked till dark, i used aerocrete blocks 40x20x15 cms for thermal , and had a colourbond roof with 25mm foam on the underside , quit cool inside , suspended ceiling , would have prefered something i could walk on , all steel beams supporting the roof , very impressed with the electrical side , every cable run in yellow pipe, which is not done in Australia, i bought over 6 safety switches , no hassle for the sparky did what i asked , my architect had not heard of a copper earth rod , found one at do home in Buriram , many tried to talk me out of having gutter installed , but i went ahead , put all the blue underground pipe in myself , was expensive to do and had trouble getting someone to do it .

I had ceramics tiles everywhere in the house and outside veranda's, all inside and outside had 2 coats of skimming powder, then undercoat and two top coats , every window had fly screens , one way coating , overall very happy , and the trades that came in from the builder , workman ship i have no complaint . i had a set price to build it , and i bought all the materials